Fidelity. Yes, that is a word that perhaps is the most important word in any relationship. Of course, then come faith, fun and eventually the future.
So, what is important physical fidelity or emotional fidelity?
Perhaps, many would disagree, but emotional fidelity is more important, ultimately. It is because of the disrespect of the emotional bond that lets deceit, lies and needless “was at an official party” excuses creep in.
Now, forgiveness is another huge F word that one is advised to keep part of the relationship too. But, forgiving when your trust has been breached? Is that not, in fact, pure foolhardiness?
All I can say is that the hollowness inside of you, that emptiness after you know that the one you trusted and loved with your life betrays you…there can never be the same bond. Trust once lost, is difficult if not impossible to regain.
So, should you still forgive and go in for a relationship where the threads of love have already been burnt?
The conversation is thrown open to you…
3 comments:
This is one of the most serious ponderings I have had to deal with Friends from either gender.
Yes, what's once shaken is difficult, if not unworkable to rebuild again. They say ‘time heals all wounds. I disagree, hands up. Time helps only me get used to the pain of the lesion - does not remove it.
There is, of course, another side to the coin. And that is a question I have yet to find an answer to. If, emotional fidelity is wrecked - does physical fidelity have any meaning at all?
No, don’t hurry to shoot an answer.
The question is not as straightforward as it sounds.
Lets all keep talking!
ravinder.bhan@gmail.com
Hi i totally agree with you akansha
I guess its taken me two years to answer this... Yes emotional fidelity is important, but over time trust can be rebuilt...never 100%, but 98%.. In this of unpredicability, I think thats a safe margin
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